My Perfect Life

Twice this week I have had people say "you seem to have the perfect life, you never have problems".

At the time I jumped to defending my problems and the difficulties in my life (lol- "NO- my life sucks too!"), but this morning in the quiet, I am having a sneaky suspicion that they may be right.

I am sitting here in appreciation. Is this because of the frame of seeing the last 11 years as a gift? The cancer (I've been wisely advised not to call it my cancer) was a
threat to this body, there was a possibility of her not making it. I wasn't really feeling that at the time, I was quite certain of survival. I do gladly take on each new year and all of the surprises, big and small, that come with them.

I do have problems, but what I'm realizing this morning is that I now have the tools to enjoy them.

My favorite job was in 1993-1995 in Colorado Springs, CO. I ended up being the 'wound care' specialist in the company that I worked for. In Colorado the Physical Therapists were allowed to use scalpels when Nurses were not and even as I sit here I can feel the glee of cleaning out wounds, cutting off the dead skin, picking out the bad parts.

When I came back to Canada I was disappointed to find out that our local nursing homes took excellent care of their clients and pressure sores were limited and the nurses handled them.

My scalpels and tweezers for the pressures sores of this life are:

`Ho'oponopono
`The Work of Byron Katie
`Robert Scheinfelds 'Busting Loose' Process
`Undoing the Ego- from my dear friends Nouk Sanchez and Tomas Vieira
`Serenity Prayer
`"This too shall pass"
`The lessons in A Course In Miracles
`Angels
`My Gratitude Buddy Kerry Sammon
`Energy Work

That is quite a toolbox. Every day I have a chance to use these tools and cut away the dead from my life, leaving me raw sometimes, but open to heal and with fresh joyful growth.

I'm grateful to my friends for bringing up my perfect life this week, and glad to realize that I am still doing my favorite job- healing wounds.

I Love You Man

In the ‘holistic scene’ (sounds groovy) there has been a movement and loads of information on the awakening of the Divine Feminine.

Our society has been patriarchal for thousands of years and this return to balance was, in my opinion, inevitable. There has been some headway made, but there continues to be huge inequities between women and men in our country (pay, position, home and child care) - let alone in countries around the world.

Several of the women I have seen in the past few weeks have done some wonderful targeted work in this area. Opening up their feminine side, open to receiving, loving the feminine, and nurturing themselves.

The layer that seems to be coming up behind this is an anger, mistrust or complete rejection of the Masculine.

All of us are complete and whole, over time however we wall off certain parts- usually for security- and limit ourselves to a ‘smaller’, more manageable version.

Injuries, stiffness and even complete disregard of the right side of the body are showing the way to a rejection of inner masculinity.

Yikes- that sentence may make sense to me- but let me break it down a little.

We are a mind, body and spirit complex- so much more than what we usually identify with and express.

The body tends to be honest; in my gentle, hands on sessions I engage in conversation with the body and things that the mind may be repressing show up. I am including the ‘energy’ body in this as well, as real to me as your arm or leg.

In energy medicine you have a giving side and a receiving side, the right is associated with masculinity and the left with femininity.

So here is what some wonderful bodies have told me this past week- it has been helpful to me so I hope that it resonates with you as well.

First, the ‘giving’ of the feminine is often intuitive and in response. What Oprah calls “the disease to please” is the darker side of this.

The giving of the masculine is more about pulling from within. Which many of us (us being women) see as selfishness.

The exciting thing is- we need the voices of women in our world (feel a Halleluiah coming on there)- by embracing the inner masculine, you can reach in and give the world your uniqueness.

Sure, Fawna, sounds easy ☺

How we (my clients and I) were led in this was distinct for each person, but basically related to:

Accepting that we are a combination of masculine and feminine

Allowing that part of us that has been ‘walled away’ to be witness and to speak

This requires some use of imagination and visualization, as well as the ability to stop and listen.

The over riding voice of this inner boy child and/or inner father, inner grandfather has been to see them in yourself and offer love (of course, ultimately isn’t that always the answer?).

As always I invite your comments.

I love you man,
Fawna

A Birthday Present to Me: Newness

Well, today I am 40. I don't have a pile of attachment to it. I am grateful to have
made it here, I've been told many times that the 40's are great- so that sounds good,
but beyond that I have few feelings regarding the day or the age.

I do however recognize the value of celebration and of ritual and for this reason I
will be enjoying a wonderful dinner tonight and my house is currently infused with the
smell of chocolate cake (the first one baked by my 13 year old son).

My gift to myself this year is going to be Newness. I found myself telling a friend
"In 2000 I was laying in a hospital bed for my 29th birthday, I had a spinal headache from a second spinal tap and a good friend of ours was killed in a bullriding accident-
I haven't liked my birthday ever since!" This is how good of a friend she is- she
challenged me: "Why are you dragging that forward?" she said with an open heart and
looking me straight in the eye.

One of my favorite stories is of the two monks:

Two monks were making a pilgrimage to venerate the relics of a great Saint. During the course of their journey, they came to a river where they met a beautiful young woman -- an apparently worldly creature, dressed in expensive finery and with her hair done up in the latest fashion. She was afraid of the current and afraid of ruining her lovely clothing, so asked the brothers if they might carry her across the river.

The younger and more exacting of the brothers was offended at the very idea and turned away with an attitude of disgust. The older brother didn't hesitate, and quickly picked the woman up on his shoulders, carried her across the river, and set her down on the other side. She thanked him and went on her way, and the brother waded back through the waters.

The monks resumed their walk, the older one in perfect equanimity and enjoying the beautiful countryside, while the younger one grew more and more brooding and distracted, so much so that he could keep his silence no longer and suddenly burst out, "Brother, we are taught to avoid contact with women, and there you were, not just touching a woman, but carrying her on your shoulders!"

The older monk looked at the younger with a loving, pitiful smile and said, "Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river; you are still carrying her."
copied from http://www.fisheaters.com/twomonks.html



This year I am committing to 'newness', to seeing everything with fresh eye's (in my case I will be asking Holy Spirit to help me see the 'truth'). Do you remember the
feeling of seeing a vista for the first time, or a new baby?- ahhhh- without comparing,
judging or making mental leaps- that is where the magic lies.

So, I ask you to be a good friend and call me on my crap. Thank you to all of you
who have sent me well wishes, my heart is truly full.

Resisting the Urge to Play Small

When I went to get my mail last week this sign took my breath away!

I shrunk a little in my car and felt my heart beating faster. I have
been asked do a presentation for our library and this is the advertisement.

So what's with the panic? That's what I asked myself.

In a previous post I shared about a tendency to keep things to myself- hoarding as it were.

When people used to meet me the general consensus was "Fawna is so quiet". A
chameleon, I enjoyed blending into the background and put as little of myself
out there as possible.

I thought I had put this to rest over the past couple of years- but one billboard
reaction shows me that there is some residue laying in there.

I read, I believe and I teach that we are greater than we can even imagine.

I read, I believe and I aspire to serve something greater than myself.

For years in fact my most common prayer is "I'm ready, show me where I might
serve the greater good". Recently these prayers are being answered in spades
as I have greater client numbers and speaking opportunities than ever.

And yet there is that little part that says "NO! QUIET- DON'T TELL ANYONE". I
can see how this has kept me from finishing books, stepping up and 'hanging it
all out there'. Fear of what? Looking weird, sounding like a whacko, seeming
like I'm too big for my britches? Yep, and like all fears- perfect for keeping
me separated from my purpose.

Laughing now, I have reconciled the billboard- grateful to see and LET GO of the
urge to stay hidden. I have things to share, and I know that you do too!

Please join me in laughing away those messages that keep us in our same places, playing small and pretending to be 'not that big of a deal'.

A billboard...geez...

3 Great Tips to Feel Instantly Better!

Today I received this newsletter from my Gratitude Buddy Kerry Sammon,
her three tips today DO THE TRICK!
Easy Peasy Lemon Squeezey- enjoy Kerry (I do)
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A PERSONAL NOTE FROM KERRY:
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Hi~

Here are a few helpful tidbits to pick you up for some weekend Fun!

Warmly,
Kerry

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Do all 3 in under 5 minutes or spend 30 seconds or less on just one:

Let go of 1 expectation. Think of an expectation you or someone else has placed on you for today. Notice how your heart feels.


Now, take a moment and imagine giving yourself a free pass. Just let go of that expectation. If you get it done great, if not, great. Now, notice how your heart feels having let that go. Ahhhhh. A little improvement goes a long way.



Find Your Beauty - Make one small change to your appearance right now that makes you feel better. Notice what a little spruce up does for your mood. Now, smile at yourself in a mirror and say "Wow, I love your..."
It's amazing how something small can make a huge difference in your self confidence. As you carry that throughout the day, you confidently embark on the next task.



Pat Yourself on the back. Congratulate yourself on one thing you have accomplished so far today. Physically pat yourself on the back. Go ahead.


I just patted myself on the back for getting my car washed. "Good Job, Kerry!" I actually felt joy in my heart while I did it and a little giddiness in my belly. How silly, yet how fun!


I truly wish for each of you, that a small shift, giggle or even a rolling of your eyes at my silliness has improved your day in some way. Sending you peace of mind, heart and soul today and everyday.
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*Free to Gilda's club members.
Email Readings: Ongoing. $40 Simply respond "e-reading" to this email if you'd like one today. Special offer when you come to an event and check in via facebook.

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Right Direction Running Director, Alex Dontchos, tells his tale of losing over 100 pounds and turning his life around. Having completed numerous endurance races including the Chicago Marathon and Triathlon, he coaches others on the ins and outs of small changes that make a big difference.
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If you'd like to develop or strengthen a gratitude practice, simply reply "gratitude matchmaker" and I will happily get you started.

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ABOUT KERRY DONTCHOS:
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Kerry Dontchos is a six-sensory teacher, body-worker and healer who helps people who are stuck, stressed or simply wanting more, to tune into their spirit, feel good in their body and enhance their lives.

A Clairvoyant Reading offers insight as you go through transitions in you life. This allows you the opportunity to negotiate through challenges with ease.
As a professional clairvoyant and spiritual coach, Kerry helps you learn more about where you are now, so you can make the necessary shifts to experience the life you desire. Based on seeing you as Spirit, a one-on-one session speaks to your true heart and nature. This helps you to take your best next step.

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As a physical therapist and practitioner of CranioSacral therapy, Zero Balancing and the Healing Arts, Kerry offers holistic care to adults and children. By blending the art and science of traditional and alternative techniques, a session with Kerry unlocks long held patterns of pain and increases your energy.

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Warmest Regards,
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Love In Escrow

Today was a day of deep and meaningful conversations (definitely on my bliss list). There were several aha's, but the one I want to talk about has led to something I want to try- and I invite you to try it with me.

I caught myself saying "you loved him all you could- it hasn't gone to waste- that love is in escrow, when he is ready to open to it it will be there for him".

Before I go on- here is the definition of escrow.

"Money and documents deposited in a trust account to be held by one party for another"

I have been trying to be mindful to what I am saying lately- often the advice I give to other people is just as applicable, if not more, to me.

Shortly after saying the statement above I thought "am I holding any love in escrow?" Are there people that have tried to love me that I have blocked. I'm certain of it.

When I go to bed tonight I plan to spend some quiet moments 'allowing'- I'll say something like "I am willing to open to all of the love that is in escrow for me", "I am willing to believe that I am worthy of all the love I've been given". And see what happens!

Murderer or Miracle?

What do you see?

Yesterday one of my friends posted this story: http://tinyurl.com/6ae62yt

In a nutshell, a convicted sex offender who had just been diagnosed HIV took a 10 year old girl from a mall. He was stopped for speeding, given a ticket and drove away. From there on he could have done anything- he chose to drop her off.

This is a Miracle.

What I heard reported on the news was "Why didn't the police computer pick up on his history?". Straight to blame. A valid question- but one that I trust the police are already asking themselves. I want to know, what happened? Why did he let her go? I'm so grateful, grateful for a moment of sanity, grateful that she will sleep in her own bed tonight, grateful that her parents will have peace.

It made me think of the bible story of Daniel in the Lions den, because this is a bible story the focus is on Daniels faith- not on blaming the people who put him in there.

It made me wonder- how many miracles are we missing by focusing on the murderer?

In my own life I have experienced the miracle of surviving stage IV cancer and having a baby after being told that the chemotherapy would make this impossible.

I have spent the past several years training my mind, harnessing it's desire to see the scary and the bad. This article gives me hope that we can do this- instead of interrupting my peace of mind, making me scared for my children and for the world I was able to sense the humanity in this story and the goodness.

I've heard the argument that this kind of thinking ('bleeding heart liberals') could lead to complacency and chaos. I'm not at all suggesting that he should not be incarcerated, the problem with fear is that it offers three options: FIGHT, FLIGHT OR FREEZE. Compassion offers limitless options- offering ME peace and freedom.

Looking for miracles,
Fawna